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Dating and the Single Parent

* Are You Ready to Date? * Talking With the Kids * Avoiding a Big Mistake * Finding Lasting Love

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Baker Books, Oct 1, 2012Religion240 pages
If you are a single parent who is currently dating or thinking about starting a dating relationship, stepfamily expert Ron Deal can help you navigate the waters, avoid potential pitfalls, and point you toward a path of making it a blessing for your children. Includes questions for individual or group study.

Trustworthy Stepfamily Expert Offers Single Parents a Guide to Dating

Single parents who are dating or want to begin a dating relationship wonder, How will dating affect my children and my parenting? They probably have figured out that “dating in a crowd” is complicated. Now they’re looking for help. Ron Deal, who has counseled single parents and remarried couples for many years, helps single parents–as well as those who date them–navigate the potential pitfalls involved. He gives perspective on when a relationship may be harmful to the children as well as how it can be a blessing to all. Always at the forefront is the goal of strengthening families. Includes questions for individual or group study.

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  1. Sean Golden
    Newark, OH
    Age: 25-34
    Gender: male
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    Worth the purchase!
    January 9, 2014
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5

    As a pastor, I recommend this book to any person who is single with children or someone who is dating an individual who has children. What makes this book so rich is that the author keeps it biblical. Many times authors tend to stray for Scripture, giving their own ideology. This man, however, keeps it biblical and gives some gut punching truths for others.

    Please get this book if you are single with a child or considering dating someone who as a child. Moreover, if you are considering a marriage and have children, please read this before you go any further.

    It’s a fruitful book that will open your eyes and bless you.

  2. anne
    Age: 25-34
    Gender: female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    great outlines
    July 9, 2013
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    this book tells u hard truth of how a relationship should be establish and should be considered when dating. This book open my eyes to a lot of questions I never even thought, it opens to reconsider what is appropriated to do when having a kid to considered. I love this book and is a book single moms should have
  3. Emily
    Canon City, CO
    Age: 25-34
    Gender: female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    December 20, 2012
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    I think this book is amazing. Every single parent show read it. It has made me look at a relationship differently. I’ve seen were I’ve went wrong even with my daughter in my relationships.
  4. Stephanie
    Age: 35-44
    Gender: female
    4 Stars Out Of 5
    Trust but verify
    November 4, 2012
    The interview on the radio that inspired me to get this book was “don’t just look at coupleness – look at the whole family compatability” (paraphrased). That was something I needed to hear. What I also needed to hear but do not see much of it thus far (still reading but read enough to say this) is there is not much affirmation of the wisdom one may already be applying. Some statements are so devoid of affirmation that they miss the full story: there is little to no acknowledgement that something good may be brought to the new family dynamic. The book sometimes feels like a scolding to an unthinking child. But with that said I do recommend it for blind spots because this decision is so serious. And I am sure that was his heart. I told my one friend, who I enlisted as confidant, that if one chooses to marry after reading this book they are either stupid or know God, Himself, has lead them toward marriage. No middle ground. So, trust the author yet remember you are capable, or you wouldn’t be in search of wisdom anyhow. God bless you with wisdom and strength.
  5. BevK
    Age: Over 65
    Gender: female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    October 27, 2012
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5

    This book is not a surface-feel-good book, but one that makes you look at yourself realistically. You can’t just skim it; every page is important. He quotes a single parent who said, “we had no idea what we were getting into”… after reading THIS book, that won’t be you!

    The author is up front and in your face with real issues — he asks you first of all to want God’s blessing in whatever you do. He asks questions so you can avoid repeating past mistakes and discern if you are ready to be serious again.

    At the end of each chapter he lists discussion questions that hammer home the information, and help you to realistically look at yourself and those you are with.

    The author explains the difference between “coupleness” and “familyness” which will give the reader a lot to consider. Coupleness does not equal familyness and should be kept in the forefront of every meeting and activity.

    He will probably shock a lot of people about ‘soul-mate’ but what he says hits the mark; he is right-on and will save people a lot of heart-ache if they listen.

    I liked how he promotes involving God and His ways in every area of one’s life i.e. a spiritually determined purpose in dating, everyone can learn from. Here is one of the thoughts he puts forth:

    “In what way is your purpose in dating blocking God’s purpose for you in dating?”

    Like I said, he asks thought-provoking and self-examining questions only you can answer.

    One piece of wisdom I’ll share here is when he says “marry someone, not as a replacement parent, but because you love them and believe they will help you raise your kids in the Lord.”

    The author gives a behavior list and says he would limit it to 1-4; I would have to say in that area, I would limit it 1-3. You’ll have to get the book to see what I am talking about!

    I am not a reviewer who ‘gives away’ the whole story, but I hope this review will give single parents or those dating a single parent, a taste to read this book. It is well worth it.

    I was given this book to review by Bethany House Publishers with no restrictions as to how I would review it. I do highly recommend it.



Word of wisdom from Ski Coach – Mountain Adventure Mum

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Tignes Tori Collins – Ski Coach – Mountain Adventure Mum

Being a single Mum to Ossie inspires me to be twice as good of a Mumma than I would be and that’s certainly not a bad thing… I’ve learnt a lot over the years alone with Ossie, so I want to share with you my advice on single parenthood…

-Being a single parent doesn’t mean that you failed! Any parent can become a single parent at any time.

-It only takes 2 or more to be a family, we are the Collins family!

-If you always do what you think is best for your child and do it to the best of your ability, then you can not have any regrets.

-Your child is only disadvantaged by having just one parent, if you let that happen. You can be an amazing parent alone by talking to them, teaching them and playing with them, having 1 active parent is better than 2 lazy parents.

-You can still follow your dreams, it may be harder and take longer and require much more planning, but it is totally possible – I achieved the highest level ski teaching qualification in the world, while raising a little boy on my own, in a foreign country, with no family close by.

-You won’t be poor, Having a child and your health is the greatest wealth! All your child needs is love and adventure! When Ossie was 5 I sold all his toys and packed up our car and headed to the mountains to follow our dreams. Your not rich until you have something that money can’t buy, so follow your dreams with your child.

-Your child is not a burden, they are a blessing. We chose to step up to the role of parenthood, whether you became pregnant by accident or not, you chose to have a baby and become their parent. You created this life for your child on purpose, now you must live on purpose, embrace it and infuse your lives with happiness.

-Somtimes being a lone parent is hard, but your life begins at the end of your comfort zone… you learn to rely on yourself, you get to know yourself, trust yourself and love yourself- These are amazing gifts to give to yourself.

-You might want to find a new partner, but you won’t be looking for a ‘new Dad’ for you child, they already have a Dad. Whether he is present in their lives or not, they have a Dad already….. If a new partner is to come into your life, he will be flattered to know that you see him not as a replacement Father but as a positive role model to your child. A loving partner who wants to step up to role of helping co-parent your child, will see this as a privilege and an honour and an opportunity to love a little more.

-You won’t need to think outside the box, just think OUTSIDE. Nature is cheaper than any therapy, raise your child outdoors as much as possible.

-I live in the mountains and I have learnt that sometimes you have to experience the deepest valley to appecriate the top of the highest mountain. You can recover from any valley and stand high and proud on a mountain top with your child.

-We are shaped by our thoughts and become what we think, therefore if you think that being a single parent is a disadvantage, then it will be a disadvantage, but when you believe in yourself and think possitivly, you can totally rock your kids life!

-Have an enjoyable life with your child, you can do whatever it is you want to do, its up to you, but don’t wish for it, work for it and start NOW!

Single Mums have 100 percent of the work, but also receive 100 percent of the love and pride that come with it. Cherish the moment and be #100PERCENTMUM

Please share this post to a single parent that you know who is doing a brilliant job (or tag them in the comments) and if you have a partner who co-parents with you, tell them how thankful you are for them!